Wish my parents had read this book

foreword

Recently, I watched a talk show with comedian Michael McIntyre. He said on the show that we need to do four things for our children: dress them, feed them, bathe them, and put them to sleep. He said that before he became a father, he had a fantasy. He thought that parents would run happily on the grass with their children, and then sit down and have a picnic leisurely, but in fact, facing children every day is an endless struggle. Fighting, you have to help them do those four basic things all the time. The audience roared with laughter as McIntyre described how he coaxed children to wash their hair, put on their coats, go out or eat their vegetables in a coaxing manner. That's the laughter of parents, maybe they are all parents like us, everyone has experienced it.

Parenthood is drudgery that can be boring, frustrating, disappointing, and mind-numbing, but it's also the most fun, joyful, loving, and beautiful thing that will ever happen to you.

When you're busy changing diapers, struggling with your child's illness, watching your child throw a tantrum (toddlers and teens), or coming home from a long day at work to start your next job (including: Scratching a banana out of a crevice, or getting another letter from the principal asking you to come to school), it can be difficult to look at parenthood with dispassionate objectivity.

The purpose of this book is to take you from the big picture, to help you take a step back to understand the big picture, what is important, what is not, and how to help your children become the best version of themselves.

At the heart of parenting is the relationship between you and your child. If people are compared to plants, the relationship is the soil. Relationships support and nourish children, allowing them to grow (or inhibit growth). Without relationships to rely on, a child's sense of security is compromised. You must want the parent-child relationship to be a source of strength for the children, and a source of strength for their children in the future.

As a psychotherapist, I have heard stories from people who have struggled with parent-child relationship issues. Through this work, I have had the opportunity to observe how the parent-child relationship can go sour and how to bring it back to normal.

The purpose of my writing this book is to share with you the really important things in parent-child education, including how to look at your feelings and your children's feelings; how to listen to your children so that you can understand them better; A tiresome pattern of conflict or retreat. I look at the problem of parenting from a long-term perspective, not relying on some small tricks or tricks to domesticate children. I'm interested in how to get along with kids, not how to manipulate them.

In this book, I will encourage you to review your own experiences in infancy and childhood, so that you can pass on the beneficial experience you have gained in the process of growing up to the next generation, and avoid copying the hardships you have suffered before to your children. I will focus on how to make all relationships better so that children can grow in harmonious relationships. I'll also talk about a woman's mindset during pregnancy, how it might affect future parent-child relationships, and how to get along with babies, children, teens, and grown-ups so that the parent-child relationship becomes a source of strength for your child and your achievement source of emotion. That way, as your child grows up, there will be fewer fights over getting them to dress, eat, bathe, and sleep.

This book is for all parents who love their children and also really like their children, I hope you can have the best parent-child relationship.